Five Danger Signs in Marriage Relationships

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Imagine a couple who were the best of friends before they got married, who could not wait to see each other the next day, who kept calling each other on the phone every day. Imagine that couple now not wanting to talk to each other, may be verbally abusing each other or even physically abusing each other. What could have gone wrong? Every married person should check whether there are danger signs in their marriage relationship. It is unwise to take anything for granted, especially marriage. Marriage can be messed up by very small misundertandings. Here are some danger signs.

1. Lack of Communication In Marriage This marriage problem often starts by spouses being too busy for each other. Some people carry office work home and have no time for their families. Others start catching up with the news immediately they get home by reading the papers, watching TV news or sports. In other cases, spouses come late from work, they are tired. Daily routines seem to wear many couples such that they just want to rest when they get home. Some may have been frustrated at the work place in addition to being tired. This kind of environment causes communication in marriages to dwindle over time. A husband and wife that were very close gradually become strangers. A spouse may begin to forget important events or days that matter to the other spouse e.g. their anniversary or a birthday.

2. Complaining and Fault Finding in Marriage If everythings are not going smoothly as they ought in a relationship, for example if the finances have issues, married couple may start finding fault with each other. The wife may blame the husband for not working hard enough. The husband may on the other hand blame the wife for 'wasting' money'. If kids are not performing well in school, the wife often gets blamed.

3. Overdrinking or Drunkenness Some people when overwhelmed by situations tend to over drink. A husband that has a nagging wife at home may resort to spending most evenings with his buddies drinking and going home late. Frustrated wives may also resort to drinking and coming home late. Over time, these become alchoholics. If there is no verbal abuse nor physical abuse, a marriage relationship can still be salvaged.

4. Verbal and Physical Abuse in Marriage Another danger sign in marriages is verbal abuse and physical abuse. As the blame game continues due to frustrations here and there and other misunderstandings, one of the spouses may start being abusive and even resorting to physical violence. This gets worse if drinking is involved.

5. Infidelity in Marriage Infidelity may be the cause of some of the marriage problems mentioned earlier or it may result from those other problems mentioned. Sometimes a spouse that feels unappreciated may look for comfort elsewhere. Usually from colleagues at work, old schoolmates or members of a club where they frequent. Often verbal abuse and physical abuse is among the most common reasons for driving couples apart and causing them to look for other partners. When they go for counseling, especially by non-professionals, there is always a risk of the person providing the counseling getting emotionally attached.

These are some of the danger signs in a marriage relationship. As the saying goes "forewarned is forearmed". If one notices any of these signs in their marriage, they should look for a remedy. They can contact a professional marriage counselor in their area if the situation is critical.